Lady Shares Heart Warming Tribute Of Adopted Daughter

With joy a lady on Instagram shared a heart warming post and gave a beautiful tribute to her adopted daughter  of over 17years. She had this to say.

On the 5th of August 2017, my legally adopted daughter Ngozi Udenwa got married to the man who was specially handpicked for her by God himself….. A wonderful young man I must say.

Some of you already know a bit about how she became my daughter but the majority of you have no idea and I wish to share the amazing story of our journey together as mother and daughter…..

In the year 2000, barely 2 months after I gave birth to my first child, by sheer happenstance I got a second househelp….. My first househelp had gone home to see her family briefly and I needed someone to cover for her until she returned….. My parents got me the second househelp to help me with my new baby so I could face my studies squarely, seeing that I was a 5th year medical student at the time. That second househelp was Ngozi Udenwa my daughter….. She was only to stay with me for a short while, just a few days but she ended up staying with me until the 5th of August 2017….. More than 17yrs in total!!!

Bride Ngozi & her husband and Ada & husband.

When she came into my care, she was a lovely, humble, lowly, young innocent beautiful girl whose only ambition in life was to be sent to school….. She had completed primary school but was yet to commence secondary school….. She was very passionate about going to secondary school at all cost, and I assured her that not only would she go to secondary school, she would also go to the University and be a huge success under the care of my husband and I….. To the glory of God’s mighty name Amen 

And so our journey started….. I quickly observed that she was a very humble, patient and kind hearted person….. Ngozi approached every task you gave her with equanimity…. She was never flustered nor irritated….. She always did her tasks thoroughly and with great conscience ….. She was also particularly honest, trust worthy and hard working, she hardly ever complained about anything and when she did, I always took her seriously, knowing that for her to talk, it must be something of great significance ….. A very mild mannered, meek, respectful, tolerant and peaceful young lady….. She was a pleasure to have in my home….. She treated my children like she was their own mother, she would cry when they were sick, I was amazed at the love she showered on them whether I was around or not, her behaviour towards them was always the same…. She treated them exactly the same in my absence as she did in my presence….. And that was one of the best things about her….. She was always without any form of pretence….. Ngozi did not know and still does not know the meaning of “eye-service”….. With her what you saw was what you got whether she was being watched or not….. The consistency in the goodness she exudes greatly endeared her to my husband, myself and all the members of our families who had the opportunity of dealing with her….

Everyone admired the dedication with which she loved and cared for my children and my home….. She is the kind of person you can leave your kids with and go to Timbuktu and sleep with your 2 eyes closed, confident in the knowledge that your children would be cared for as if you were the one caring for them yourself…. As the kids grew older, they testified to the goodness of Aunty Ngo as they all refer to her …..

My husband and I enrolled her in secondary school as soon as she settled into our home….. And she proved to be an intelligent, ambitious and focused young lady to our collective delight….. She knew what she wanted and she set out to achieve it….. By the time she came to our home, her biological mother was already deceased, a few years into her secondary education, she also lost her biological father….. And became an orphan biologically….. As time went on, we decided to relocate abroad and we decided to legally adopt her and take her with us….. By then she had lived with us for 4 years and we were pretty confident that we were doing the right thing and that with God on our side, neither of us was going to regret the move to make Ngozi our legally adopted daughter, with all the rights and privileges that go with her newly acquired status….. The adoption process was rigorous but we succeeded in the end and we brought her with us to Ireland….. My husband and I promised her that if she remained as loyal, respectful, hardworking and peaceful as she has been, then we will ensure that she becomes a university graduate and an Irish citizen, God willing.

She became a very important member of our family, providing the much needed robust domestic support while she was enrolled into the Irish educational system to work her way into the tertiary institution here….. Through us she became an Irish citizen and soon got a good job while she continued to study…..To the glory of God’s mighty name Amen….. And this year she graduated from the University ….. I am so grateful to God and proud of her for achieving this great feat because I know just how much she wanted this….. And less than a month after she graduated, she got married to her Prince Charming…. …. Talk about everything coming together for good to those who love God, who work according to His purpose…..

Ngozi and her husband

Ngozi could have given us hell in Ireland if she wanted to…. Infact she was advised to do so by some unscrupulous elements when she was about to leave Nigeria with us …. But she CHOSE to give us peace and joy and in return she is reaping peace and joy…. She played a key role in maintaining the stability of my home and now she will enjoy great stability in her own home, as it has pleased God….. We have become so close as mother and daughter that I hardly remember that she was once my househelp….. We have a deeply confiding relationship and my children are as much her children as they are her siblings too….. They love their Aunty Ngo so much and won’t hesitate to fell anyone who stands in the way of her happiness….. They are that protective of her.

It gives us tremendous joy as a family to see her become a success in both her personal and professional lives…… She is both personally, professionally and economically fulfilled…. Chineke daalu ….. My husband and I are so elated that through the grace, mercy and favour of God, we fulfilled our promise to her ….. Our promise to her that she will become successful in all aspects of her life if she remained good has been fulfilled today…. Holy Trinity in one God we bow down and worship you for enabling us to make good on our promise to her after she delivered her own part of the agreement.

Family photo

My family and I travelled en masse to Nigeria this July in order to send her forth, honour her and celebrate with her as she commenced her new life as a married woman…. It is our fervent prayer that God continues to reward her goodness and loyalty to us even as we have tried in our own little way to reward her through the grace, mercy and favour of God Amen 

From my Househelp My legally adopted DaughterIrish citizen Working class girlGraduateBeloved wife of a good man….. It took 17 yrs but she’s finally where she truly wants to be……Thank you Jesus….. Amen  ….. She was patient….. Very patient…. But she now has it all, against all odds….. Chineke daalu 

Ada and Ngozi

Humility, patience and a great sense of loyalty made her what she is today….. Humility attracted God’s favour into her life, patience helped her wait for the full manifestations of God’s blessings and her loyalty to us was rewarded with our loyalty to her….. Seeing Ngozi go from a lowly impoverished househelp to an economically viable university graduate who is now an Irish citizen and a happily married woman has added more years to my life because of the sense of fulfilment it affords me…… I am indeed deeply gratified…. Chineke daalu 

Humility is the mother of all virtues….. If you want to be served….. You must first serve!
….. With patience and humility!!!

Jesus Igweeeeeeeeeeee 

Benefits Of Intimacy In Marriage

This post is for couples who have accepted sex in their relationship and couples who are still contemplating. For those who aren't married, having a sexless relationship isn't bad but to those married but still starve their partners of sex, here are five reasons why you should rethink. Sex can be a much more passionate experience when you share it with a meaningful partner. Sex may feel like a mere means of pleasure and fun but there is a lot of good that it can do for your relationship. To some people sex may seem overrated, but we give you five reasons why sex is beneficial for your relationship.

Keeps you connected
Sex is an intimate experience, which can bring you closer to your partner not just physically but emotionally. Your bedroom chemistry can also improve the chemistry in your relationship. A sexless relationship can become vulnerable over time and therefore, you need sex to keep the fire burning.

Keeps stress at bay
With the kind of lives we live, stress has become an integral part of it. This often takes a toll on your relationship. However, research shows that sex releases a feel-good chemical in the brain, which reduces stress levels. Instead of resorting to antidepressants, engage in a heated sex session to improve your well being and strengthen your relationship.

 
Keeps the romance alive
Sex may seem like a physical activity but it has an emotional appeal to it. It causes the body to release oxytocin, which is also called the love hormone that will make you feel that you need to love and trust your partner. 

Keeps the hormones balanced
We’ve already mentioned that being sexually active will calm stress but apart from that it also helps your body maintain hormonal balance. This hormonal balance will calm other emotional problems like depression and anxiety and will also increase fertility.

Keeps you both healthy
Sex can also benefit your overall health. Sex can also make you more flexible. It also acts as a metabolic and immune booster and can also fight the ageing process. This ensures that it not only keeps you and your partner healthy but also keeps your relationship vibrant.

Kevin Hart Celebrates Anniversary With Wife Eniko

Kevin Hart and Eniko Parrish, who have a son on the way, shared a post gushing about each other on Sunday as they celebrate their first wedding anniversary. In a photo which the 38-year-old  Kevin posted it captioned “Happy 1 year anniversary to this unbelievable wife of mine,” "Thank u for all that you do. Thank you for loving me & supporting me at the highest level…Thank you for loving & embracing my kids & the way you do…Thank you for turning my house into a home…Thank you for simply making me Happy…You are & will forever be my ‘Rib’….1 year down & the rest of our life to go….Our family & our union is getting bigger & stronger & I love it!!!!!” he said.

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Evelyn's Tale

Wale wanted to know every tiny detail that had to do with me. I didn't know how my mum would feel knowing I had a child out of wedlock so I didn't hesitate at all to take him to my mum since the pregnancy was still young and not really noticeable. Wale introduced me to all his friends, colleagues at work and even some of his extended family members. I was home! We were both in love. Wale didn't hide anything from me, so I presumed. 

One of the days Wale and I weren't together, mum asked to see me.

How long have you known this young man? Mum asked with concern in her eyes.

Six months, I lied.

I had known wale for three months and it felt like five years. 

Marriage isn't something you rush into honey, my mum sighed as she adjusted her spectacles on her slender nose bridge.

I had something special with my husband, your father. We courted for two years and I still didn't know everything about him after five years of marriage.

Trying hard not to look into her eyes, I assured her that Wale and I were the perfect match and I only hoped she believed me.

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The wedding date was finally fixed and both of our family members were busy making sure everything was going as planned. We had gotten a venue and both families agreed on Ikeja in Lagos state Nigeria. I wanted something small but Wale's mum wouldn't hear of it. She wanted her first son's wedding to be grand. She wanted it to be on the mouths of Lagos party goers and  if possible all Nigerians. I did not see any reason for the extravagant ceremony but I had no choice than to listen to my future mother-in-law.
A week to the wedding, I barely saw Wale. He was so busy with both work and preparations. Mum also felt I shouldn't see him during that week so that it would be more magical on the wedding day. I didn't really care if it was not magical. Whatever that means,  I only wanted to see my Wale.
So,  three days to our wedding, I decided to pay Wale a surprise visit at his place in Ajah, Lagos state.
It wasn't the first time I had come around without telling him. But this time Wale was furious. Through out the times I knew Wale, he had never raised his voice on me or got that angry.
I apologised without knowing why and asked him if everything was fine. He asked me to wait  outside while he got the keys to his car, so he would drop me off claiming he had an important conference to attend.
I felt disappointed so I kept silent as he drove me back to my place.
That night he called me to apologize for  flaring up and said he had been stressed because of the wedding and work. 

It's okay,  I said in a tiny voice choked up in tears. 

Baby, are you crying? Wale's deep voice echoed through the phone.
I couldn't speak much because a lot of strange thoughts were going through my head.
What if he had someone else? No!! I shook the thought off my head.
What if this was a mistake.. What if I didn't really know him.. What if ...what if... What if... My brain needed a chill. So I managed to tell Wale I was fine and just had a slight headache and needed to go get aspirin from the kitchen.
  He wasn't convinced but he still had to get off the phone.
After I felt relief from the pill I had taken. I knelt down and prayed to God. I hadn't done that in along while. I needed guidance. I knew it was too late to know more about Wale. So I prayed to God to make our relationship in marriage last. ...
To be continued

Evelyn's Tale

I waited patiently for a day I'd have the courage to walk out of this relationship. I loved Wale with everything I was made of. I wondered how I would survive without him. Despite all Wale's bad sides, Wale was the sweetest person I had come across when he wasn't in a bad mood. Before I married Wale, I heard stories about abusive relationships. Men hitting their wives and some tough women beating their husbands. I grew up with a single mum, so I never had the opportunity to know what it looked like for a man and woman to live together. Wale changed 3months after our wedding. After he lost his job he suddenly changed. He became very aggressive and short tempered. I tried hard to stay away from him but even that pissed him off. He accused me of seeing someone else and that  was the reason I stayed away from him. Every little thing I did seemed to make him angry. Some days he would be so sweet to me but other days it was a war zone.
I met Wale at the store I once worked. He came in with a lady friend I assumed was his girlfriend. He was very chatty and extremely friendly with every one in the store. The next day he came in and asked for my number. From there, we started going out until i got pregnant. Surprisingly, Wale was excited about the baby. He became so sweet to me. Asked me to stop work and move into his place. Wale was everything I dreamt of. He was my fairytale prince charming. He did the laundry, made breakfast most of the time and spoilt me with gifts. Wale asked to see my parents and introduced me to his mum. Could all of this be real? I asked my self..... To be continued
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